Mommy Wars Part 601,789Published March 29th, 2013
“The feminist revolution started in the workplace and now it’s happening at home,” says Kelly Makino, a stay-at-home, putatively “Feminist Housewife,” in Lisa Miller’s cover story in New York Magazine last week. “I feel like in today’s society women who don’t work are bucking the convention we were raised with … Why can’t we just be girls? Why do we have to be boys and girls at the same time?”
Makino “does not want to be painted as betraying the goals of feminism,” writes Miller. “She prefers to see herself as reaching beyond conventional ideas about what women should do [by] making domesticity her career.” Doing so, she feels she is “standing up for values, such as patience and kindness and respectful attention to the needs of others” that you can’t have at work.
Okay. So, remind me again how equating boys with work and girls with homemaking and childcare is . . . feminist? Or how the idea that patience and kindness are feminine values, unfit for the (read: masculine) workplace is “beyond conventional?”
Oh, I forgot to mention: Makino wears purple Converse sneakers and a silver nose-stud. Miller also talks about the moms in places like Williamsburg and Bushwick, doing essentially the same thing Makino is doing in the suburbs — cooking healthy meals, knitting.
This isn’t a trend. Most women work, whether they want to or not.
And more important, it ain’t feminist.
It’s June Cleaver, with tattoos.